Does Your Life Get Extra Emotional Sometimes?
Your Thinking - Your Wiring
Life is a journey and YOU experience many thoughts and many feelings.
Growing up I always wondered why my head didn't expand as I added thoughts in there.
I also wonder why my emotions have so much impact on how I move forward in life.
Does your life get extra emotional sometimes
Some experiences during your journey IN LIFE may bring up feelings of fear, sadness, guilt, shame, anxiety, depression, frustration or other emotions that stop you enjoying your daily activities comfortably, with happiness, with confidence and knowing that all of YOU is okay and accepted.
Beliefs are formed through having had experiences and JOIN you as you move forward in your daily activities. Maybe your thoughts/beliefs have followed you over weeks, months or even years. Have you ever wondered why your emotions keep joining you or you keep thinking in a particular way about certain things?
Find your own personal evidence
I recommend that you document YOUR experiences that have had a negative impact on you and YOUR journey in your life from 0 – 5 years old and then 5 – 10 years old and then 10 – 15 years old (and beyond) so you can make an assessment of your experiences and those emotional reactions.
As you document those experiences, include the thoughts or beliefs that were also formed.
Documentation is a simple tool to use so that you get that Aha moment!!
With the words "No Wonder I am FEELING this way" or "No wonder I shy away from doing certain things" or "No wonder I get stressed"
Emotional Freedom Techniques
With support from a qualified E.F.T. Practitioner, each piece of evidence that supports a negative belief or negative emotion comes to the surface (for you to work with) at your pace.
* It is gentle and effective *
* It is engaging and safe *
* It is a tool for ever *
E.F.T. (Emotional Freedom Technique – Tapping) supports your emotions when they start to rise up. (feeling stressed, feeling overwhelmed, feeling guilty, feeling frustrated and any other emotions that is brought to your attention.
Like a flower that wilts you send out a vibration (your vibes).
That vibration attracts the bugs or predictors
In plant world we 'spray' to stop the bugs OR feed the plant nutrients for growth
In human world you increase your vibrations with good thoughts and beliefs to stop the preditors.
By developing a growth mindset and pulling out the weeds your growth is nurtured
If a plant sends out a message via their aroma (humans smell plants for freshness), then the aroma of a plant is either strong and blossoming or going towards weak and wilting
In the human world you send out a message (your vibes that others pick up on) via your thoughts which are either strong and positive OR heading towards weak and negative
Do you have weeds in your life?
Are you feeling disempowered?
Do you find yourself up against others that are intimidating?
Do you have symptoms of anxiety?
Do you feel exhausted by the end of the day?
Do you fill a 'void' to cope because some days are just tough?
Do you isolate yourself because you don't want to be judged?
I can help YOU pull out those weeds that might have been there for years, using a technique called 'EFT' (Emotional Freedom Techniques)
Jump over to my website to explore how this works and book in a free call
Find how to incorporate the following into your world
SUPPORT - TIME OUT - LIFE BALANCE - CREATIVITY - GROWTH MINDSET
Facebook Cause and Effect in Action
Book a free call with me by making an appointment to see how support can find its way to you
Undervaluing yourself will affect many parts of your life. Most people give more value to materialistic possessions or positioning themselves in a business, than they do to themselves. Most people have no idea how good their life can be because they don't take the time to nurture and ADD value TO their life. Life is filled up with 'I can't do that' ~ 'What if I get it wrong' ~ 'I don't have time for me' ~ 'It's someone elses fault that I feel this way' - 'what if I say the wrong thing?' - If this is YOU then without a doubt your self-esteem is low and you will never out perform your current value you place on yourself.
It is important to firstly acknowledge that you undervalue yourself. The second important thing is to acknowledge there is CHOICE to take ACTION to create CHANGE for yourself.
There are pitfalls when you undervalue yourself and they stay that way until there is change work. Stepping out of 'comfort zones' doesn't need to be hard when you have support. Each person has a way of supporting themselves through the muddy waters of undervaluing the 'self'
I am here to support you out of the muddy waters if that is your choice.
In this day and age, it is very easy to get onto 'google' and search up content that might suppport you in moving forward.
What isn't so easy, is to take ACTION for youself to have the CHANGE for yourself and move out of comfort zones to create NEW comfort zones.
Some people procrastinate, some people over indulge in things, some people avoid having the lime-light, some people feel like they don't have a voice, some people have people take advantage of them and so the list goes on and on and on.
There is one thing in common when undervaluing yourself.
You will never out perform or outdo your benchmark.
Finding why you undervalue yourself creates acknowledgement which allows benchmarks to become new ones
ARE YOU READY FOR ACTION
We all need human connection because we were born to live this way. Connnecting and communicating with others when there is a story that needs to be heard is best practice.
I am offering you my 'free' checklist download so you can 'check in' with yourself so you can assess where your 'benchmark' is sitting
Pop in your details to receive the checklist. If you are ready to take ACTION and value YOU more then I am here to support your journey. Over a skype chat we can isolate the causes.
I live with the philosophy that we have choices in life BUT some things need support otherwise life is going nowhere or comfort zones are never challenged. Undervaluing yourself is one of those support structures that I offer you. Sue
YOUR world is all about language
How YOU are affected by LANGUAGE makes the difference
on HOW easily YOU move forward.
Have you felt traumatised from words you have heard from someone else’s mouth AND directed towards you?
(in the workplace, socially or in relationships)
Words can drag your energy down
Your mind constantly tries to sift through the words spoken. It pulls out certain words and creates meaning from those words. THEN you internalise what you have HEARD from someone else.
It also drags energy away from you.
Your NEW THOUGHT process responds
"Maybe what they have said is true"
"I am not feeling too good about those words" - I need time to process them
"I'm in SHOCK about being attacked with words that have hurt me"
"I never used to feel this way about myself, so why am I now feeling this way"
I'm not good enough
Your own belief systems about yourself are in question WHEN YOU ENTER into the thought processes of others (through their comments and opinions) as if they are laying down the 'LAW' and you should be picking up their opinions and comments as if they are 'TRUTH'.
These people are like the sharks in the water attacking each part of you slowly but surely.
You will never out-perform your self-worth
If you think you are worthless THEN that is your BENCHMARK and you will never out-perform that
YOUR energy responds to YOU because of YOUR beliefs and YOUR LIMITS you have put on yourself to perform
I was attacked and hunted (as if I was prey to sharks) in my workplace, I hated getting out of bed in the morning with the thought that I was going to be attacked again. I isolated myself to PROTECT myself from more attacks.
It was the social connections that I had which built me up and kept me going. I learnt to separate the workplace (thoughts of not being good enough) to my social group (where I was good enough and appreciated as being ME)
The bullies had an agenda and were not going to let up (just like sharks needing a feed and have that satisfaction of success). I had to earn money to survive and my workplace was the way I was going to bring that money in.
The days of being hunted took its toll on me. Sleepless nights, not wanting to go to work, isolating myself, wondering what others were going to be thinking of me (as if) I was not a very good employee, changed thoughts about whether was was good enough to be doing what I was doing, thoughts that I had to wear all of the bullies thoughts and demands - I got to a point of thinking, I don't need to be suffering this because of the bullies agenda.
I reached a tipping point with my emotional well-being and and then I had thoughts of 'I don't need to be part of this' - It was becoming too much to be hunted on most of the working days.
The first step was to get to the Doctor. There are many options available if you are being bullied in the workplace and can't cope with it. I got the support that I needed and I would recommend that same support to anyone.
It is really necessary to create space for yourself and gain some emotional resilience before heading back to work for more of the SAME.
There is a really good way to pick up your self-worth.
Do what you are good at so that you never NEED to feel judged by others and feeling like YOU are in the wrong place.
Join a group for ANOTHER social connection because social connections are very important
Taking TIME out for YOUSELF away from being bullied
to create opportunities to do the things that YOU enjoy is like stepping over the fence into the emotional HEALING that is needed for the 'self'
I entered into a place of no judgement when I took time out for MYSELF and away from being bullied
I created a 'space' to turn around the emotional 'words' that hurt me
INTO driving myself forward with positivity
emotional resilience was created at this point for me
I took charge again
for more information contact firstname.lastname@example.org
YOU WERE BORN WORTHY
It is the driving force behind you to be curious, to have energy when you wake up in the morning, to challenge the day and have the self-worth that you were born with
If your world has created something else for you
A good point to remember is that you can escalate situations so that a bully can escalate.
A continuation of verbal put downs from them and THEN REACTING will keep it continuing
Best principle is NOT to react
Allow opinions to be the ownership of those who give them
Others opinions don't have to be yours and you don't need to prove that yours are what others need to hear
BREATHE and RELAX into your own thoughts
WHAT IS YOUR ENERGY TELLING YOU (email@example.com)
Your energy flow that beams out of you is dependent on how you are feeling. Your energy flow interacts with others. A lot of people are not aware of this.
Your heart has an aura that can be picked up by others about 5 metres around you.
Do you EVER get that feeling of someone being around you that maybe you are not sure about? Do you ever get that feeling of being around someone that you want to connect with?
Energy is given out in many forms
YOU are attracted to other people’s energy AND FEEL that boost of connection. (You want to be around them) – It gives you a sense of motivation, happiness and you love who they are for their energy output.
People call this the LAW OF ATTRACTION
Everything you do today will affect you in some way because energy is bouncing out of you and back to you in some way. It is natural to have ebbs and tides like the ocean with emotions.
If you are riding a choppy wave (it happens) ARE YOU trying to regain balance in your life, or some clarity of thought so that you are NOT attracting the energy back?
YOU can CHANGE your law of attraction AND the EFFECTS. All you need is balance. That sounds so simple doesn’t it?
What you are doing on one side of the fence
NEEDS the opposite to happen on the other side of the fence
If there has been trauma in your life and YOU have experienced this THEN it is natural that the waves are going to be choppy and the ride hard to balance.
There is a theory behind the LAW OF CAUSE AND EFFECT
Nothing happens by chance or outside the Universal Laws. Every Action has a reaction or consequence "We reap what we sow”. "For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction". Every human thought or words used or ‘interaction with others is a Cause. This sets the height of the energy wave throughout the universe (which includes the people, rooms, homes, suburbs, countries, which in turn creates the effect. To explain this in simple terms, the energy amongst some people is very strong, whilst the energy from other people is very low.
To Sum It Up
We are ALL creating energy to share with others. (That is what we do on a daily basis).
What might be the SURPISING PART is that similar energy meet.
Thought plays a huge roll in this creation of energy for yourself so you MEET similar energy.
Change the CAUSE and EXPERIENCE a different EFFECT
Please connect if you NEED to change the CAUSE and have a different EFFECT in YOUR world of emotions email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Stories began from the moment you were born. Through listening, touching, seeing, smelling and interacting with your parents or siblings as they were your support team for survival. Children are in 'theta' state most of the time. Theta has also been identified as the gateway to learning and memory. Theta state is where insights occur, or re-programming of the mind occur. It makes sense then that children are like little 'sponges' absorbing so much of their environment and retaining memory of experiences so that survival is at its strongest. A theorist called Erik Erikson (1902 - 1994) said that one of the stages of development was where a child learns to have Autonomy Vs Shame and Doubt. Another theorist called Jean Piaget (1896 - 1990) said that between the ages of 2 - 7 is where a child sees the world as if it evolved around the 'self'. As a young child learns to make simple choices to start building up their self-esteem and confidence, experiences become part of the memory game. This is a time where children learn what guilty feels like as they adjust to the boundaries that are put in place when simple choices don't go according to plan. They may even learn to feel ashamed at what they did as they recognise that the world isn't all about 'self'. A child's world is full of expieriences and memories of what to do again and not what to do again.
So a story begins with interactions with others and experiences, reactions to others and experiences and therefore memories get laid down into the subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind is the emotional mind and is there to inform you how to deal with events on an emotional level. The conscious mind is there to inform you how to deal with events on a logical level. The conscious mind is also known as the 'Ego'
We hold onto them and mostly love them when the feelings are great. Some people have memories that keep them held within 'limits' as a reminder that the experience or event doesn't occur again. Some people don't remember 'memories of events' because the emotional intensity is quite high. This is one of the ways that the subconscious mind protects the 'self' by putting those memories that have emotional intensity down deep so that the 'self' is protected in ways for continued survival. Therefore, limits to the 'self' creep in and the mindset says "Don't go to that place again where there is emotional intensity" - It makes sense if your story has put limits in place for you because it is there to protect you from having a negative emotional intensity. We are not designed to cope with negative emotional intensity day after day and week after week. Our 'being' is always trying to reach balance and one of those ways of keeping 'balance' is to tuck away emotions that hurt.
Just like any memory, it sits in the PAST and has its foundation in the PAST. Just like the experience of a child that learns to adjust to the boundaries laid down by parents and experiences with others. Has your past created guilt or shame about doing something wrong? - Does your current situation create feeling guilty about something that you know you shouldn't feel guilty about?
As far as the subconscious mind is concerned, it doesn't want to have those experiences that have emotional intensity attached to them so it believes that the 'set of rules' that were established in the PAST are still current in the PRESENT. They remain that way until new evidence informs you that limits can change and can have a different emotional outcome.
Theta State frequency (of relaxation) is also where meditation creates new insights and where re-programming can occur. E.F.T. uses the energetic flow of the meridians that taps back into where the 'core' issues began (or the event). As the theorist of Piaget suggests, the learning of a 2 - 7 year old is all about the 'self' and so if there has been a negative experience, there is a disruption to the body's energy system. As the 2 - 7 year old is a time about 'self' it is also a time where learning to feel guilty, I'm not good enough, shamed, sad or embarrassed, because there has been a disruption to their world of 'self' when the world was all about living in 2 - 7 year old zone.
E.F.T. is a place for anyone that has Limiting Beliefs that have an emotional intensity. EFT gently goes back to the memories which established the set of rules to live by (where those limits were put in place). If you have limited yourself to keeping in your comfort zone, yet would love to step out of your limits and into a different mindset, then EFT helps with that mindset on an energetic level by tapping on the meridians and repeating simple phrases.
It is safe and can be used alongside other healing modalities.
Travelling requires some type of luggage so that you arrive with what is needed at your destination. You wish to be clothed with the essentials and have the necessary items that suit your needs. (in the old days luggage was called baggage) ~ Today the language of 'baggage' is what you come with to your present destination. What are your bags holding and what are your bags filled with. Can you imagine what some of those stories might be for each bag at this train station? Or where each of those bags have been during their travels? Or why some look more weary than others? There is no doubt that each bag tells a story and one of those bags might be YOUR story of your travels and experiences.
Experiences in your travels through life are sometimes exciting and memorable. When remembered they bring joy and feelings of happy times. Some experiences during your travels in life are not memorable and bring up feelings of fear, sadness, guilt, shame, or other emotions that stop you from travelling to your destination comfortably, with happiness, with confidence or with knowing what to expect when you meet someone at your next destination.
Life is a journey and YOU experience many feelings that are associated to experiences. If your baggage has been opened up on your journey and feelings have developed that stop you getting on the next travel destination, then I am looking for YOU so that I can help you close the zip on your luggage and get back on your travels in comfort and with peace of mind.
I am looking for those people at the train station who are in one of those suitcases!!